The Lovers, numbered VI (this is six in Roman Numerals), is about commitment, romantic and otherwise. This card is about choosing who is family, and choosing where, what, and with whom to commit your time, your life, your soul. Love of friends, love of hobbies, love of community, love of work, love of nature, of self, etc. Partnership. Union.
When the Lovers is the the obstacle position it typically speaks to counterfeit love. Either you being manipulated or someone else is manipulating you. Sometimes it's simply you trying too hard. Whatever the case, something, a belief, a person, an anxiety, is getting in the way of you experiencing the real deal kind of love, romantic or otherwise. Remove the block so you can love more clearly.
When the Lovers is in the solution position it typically speaks to doing what you love, and being with whom you love. Return to whatever it is that creates real connection and joy, be that with a person, nature, a pet, a hobby, etc. You gotta go back to the courtship aspect to get back into right relationship with the real deal love. Of course, this applies to all forms of authentic love; platonic or otherwise.